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CHILDREN WHO ARE SLOW LEARNERS

CHILDREN WHO ARE SLOW LEARNERS

Today I visited my Client at her office, coincidentally I arrived at the hour of School run. I saw how she hurried in rounding off with the work on her desk. As soon as I enter we greeted and we started our normal gist.

Few minutes later we left the office for Elvis school to pick him up. On getting to the school premises, we realised how late we were, the car pack was empty. Obviously parents arrived earlier, picked up their kids and were long gone. We packed, got out of the car and started off towards the primary three classroom.

I observed how calm and serene the environment was, everywhere was silent; it was idyllic. I didn't hear the normal shouting of parents when they are without success trying to control and coordinate their children.

You hear things like:

"Junior stop running, if you don't stop you will fall down and get injured and I won't tell you sorry",

"Mummy i want to weewee! Wait when we get home you will weewee" "Daddy carry me on your shoulder" "Daddy do you still remember the promise you made last night that you will allow me to watch my favourite cartoon today?"

 "Jessica will you stop that nonsense your are doing and hold John's hand!?" "Amina look front" "Why is your school bag so dirty? you will clean it up by yourself when we get home" "Kingsley your class teacher said you didn't perform well in your classwork today why? you are playing too much right?"

"How did you get your school uniform torn like this?" "Why did you fight Kennedy today I thought he is your friend? He broke my pencil" "Rita behave yourself before I slap you" "Mummy Anita are we here again, yes!!! Are you done picking your Kids?".

Parents am I communicating?

All these, will be enhanced by the intense shouting and screaming emanating from the children; the joy of going home after a hectic day in school knows no bounds. All these usually make the environment during school run hour very noisy and rowdy. But today the environment was bereft of noises, everywhere was silent and calm.

As we hurried to Elvis's classroom, we started having second thoughts- thoughts of his classroom still being opened; we were damn too late. As we got to an angle where we could directly see the front view of the classroom, we saw that the classroom door was still ajar, we became a bit relieved. We entered the classroom and saw Elvis sitting down at the foremost front seat patiently waiting for us.  

Towards the back row, we saw a woman with a girl sitting beside her. The woman was patiently copying into a note directly from the board, and at the same time was reading out loud for the girl; she was repeating after the woman. We greeted her and my Client moved closer to the woman and asked, "Are we at it again?". The woman laughed and replied, "Yes we are at it again!", and my client was like, "it is well". I was listening carefully to their conversation, everything about children interests me if you may know.

The woman went on: "We have no choice, I have tried my best to see if she can write by herself to no avail. I have tried private tutorial, tired of beating her, all these seems to be futile. The worse is that she is stubborn and doesn't look like someone who wants to learn or change"

I chipped in at this juncture and asked the woman, "Does she have personality issues?" she said No. I asked her again, "Does she have any form of disabilities or impediment? she said No. "She is just naturally sluggish, unlike her other siblings they write and read so well, but this one? No headway" she said.

 "I practically copy her classwork and homework everyday for her and I teach her a little here before we go home and continue at home, and that's how we cope. We are brand ambassadors of this class, we are always the last to leave the classroom everyday. I have to request for the classroom key from her school teacher. This enables us make use of the class to learn a bit in school before going home. I personally lock the classroom by myself everyday and submit the key to the security guards at the gate."

This Act really touched me deep down my spirit. This Parent Inspired me today and I felt like sharing some nuggets with you all.

Indeed some children are slow learners, some even carry it over to adulthood while some don't. Some Kids are naturally smart while some are not. For some, it will take them enormous time to learn their alphabets, take them ages to learn their numbers and centuries to learn how to hold their pencils properly and write, while some children grasp so fast.

Parents who are not patient enough end up not helping these children who are slow in learning. And these kids seriously needs help! As a parent you have the greater task of repositioning your kids mentality don't leave it for their school teachers alone. In fact, you are your children's first teacher! patiently guide them and correct them in love not aggressively. They are children because they have fewer life experiences. It is not automatic it's a gradual process.

Sometimes you here parents say things like these in outburst "Just look at your younger brother, you dullard!" "Its obvious that I am wasting my hard earned money on you Idiot!" "Its of no use sending you to school, don't you see how your mates are progressing!" "Educating you is useless, if you don't change I will withdraw you from school Nonsense!" "Obviously school is not meant for you soon you will join them in the street and start Hawking coconut Head"

Parents does these statements ring bell?

Parents I beg you from the bottom of my heart don't give up on these children who are slow in learning. Keep guiding and teaching them, keep reading for them, Keep Pushing them forward. Make out time for this.

So many of us reading this post right now were once slow learners when we were younger but today we are leading in different spheres of life. I charge you on this day to take that your child who is a slow learner as your personal project for the rest of this year. Carry out massive work on him or her, I bet you before the end of this year there will be an awesome improvement.

Some parents will try helping these children in all sincerity but if they sense that the child in particular seems not to be responding positively to their efforts, they get discouraged and the next thing they will do is to adopt "Neglectful Parenting Style" abandoning the child to himself which doesn't help at the end.

Furthermore, please parents, stop comparing these kids to their siblings, mates and friends; it's not healthy for their psychology. Shouting, yelling, threats doesn't solve any problem either. Thus, you have to stop it so that you won't end up having a psychologically damaged child or a child with extreme low self esteem. Trust me this picture is worse!

One of my mentors I respect so much was once a Chronic slow learner but today he is a boss in every realm he operates. He will tell me Nneka Do you know that at Primary Six to JSS-2 I was still nothing to write home about ( But I bless God for my Dad! He never gave up on me.

Ben Carson the well known global Icon and colossal medical practitioner was once a slow learner. Just look at what he later turned out to be! (Kudos to his Mum). In fact, So many great personalities today were once slow learners, but someone somewhere believed in them and never gave up on them (your case shouldn't be Different).

I Encourage Immensely Parents all over the world who are already in this kind of race, God will continue to strengthen you all!

I am Children's Friend from the world of forms. I help Parents to Reposition their Children Psychology, especially the stubborn ones focusing on child's education (Feel free to Consult Me)

-Nneka P. Okereke: Parents and Children's coach; I teach and guide parents on how best to raise their Twenty-First Kids and have a happy family.          

      Follow Me @ ParenKids WHO ARE SLOW LEARNERS

Today I visited my Client at her office, coincidentally I arrived at the hour of School run. I saw how she hurried in rounding off with the work on her desk. As soon as I enter we greeted and we started our normal gist.

Few minutes later we left the office for Elvis school to pick him up. On getting to the school premises, we realised how late we were, the car pack was empty.  Obviously parents arrived earlier, picked up their kids and were long gone. We packed, got out of the car and started off towards the primary three classroom.

I observed how calm and serene the environment was, everywhere was silent; it was idyllic. I didn't hear the normal shouting of parents when they are without success trying to control and coordinate their children.

You hear things like:

"Junior stop running, if you don't stop you will fall down and get injured and I won't tell you sorry",

"Mummy i want to weewee! Wait when we get home you will weewee" "Daddy carry me on your shoulder" "Daddy do you still remember the promise you made last night that you will allow me to watch my favourite cartoon today?"

 "Jessica will you stop that nonsense your are doing and hold John's hand!?" "Amina look front" "Why is your school bag so dirty? you will clean it up by yourself when we get home" "Kingsley your class teacher said you didn't perform well in your classwork today why? you are playing too much right?"

"How did you get your school uniform torn like this?" "Why did you fight Kennedy today I thought he is your friend? He broke my pencil" "Rita behave yourself before I slap you" "Mummy Anita are we here again, yes!!! Are you done picking your Kids?".

Parents am I communicating?

All these, will be enhanced by the intense shouting and screaming emanating from the children; the joy of going home after a hectic day in school knows no bounds. All these usually make the environment during school run hour very noisy and rowdy. But today the environment was bereft of noises, everywhere was silent and calm.

As we hurried to Elvis's classroom, we started having second thoughts- thoughts of his classroom still being opened; we were damn too late. As we got to an angle where we could directly see the front view of the classroom, we saw that the classroom door was still ajar, we became a bit relieved. We entered the classroom and saw Elvis sitting down at the foremost front seat patiently waiting for us.  

Towards the back row, we saw a woman with a girl sitting beside her. The woman was patiently copying into a note directly from the board, and at the same time was reading out loud for the girl; she was repeating after the woman. We greeted her and my Client moved closer to the woman and asked, "Are we at it again?". The woman laughed and replied,  "Yes we are at it again!", and my client was like, "it is well". I was listening carefully to their conversation, everything about children interests me if you may know.

The woman went on: "We have no choice, I have tried my best to see if she can write by herself to no avail. I have tried private tutorial, tired of beating her, all these seems to be futile. The worse is that she is stubborn and doesn't look like someone who wants to learn or change"

I chipped in at this juncture and asked the woman, "Does she have personality issues?" she said No. I asked her again, "Does she have any form of disabilities or impediment? she said No. "She is just naturally sluggish, unlike her other siblings they write and read so well, but this one? No headway" she said.

 "I practically copy her classwork and homework everyday for her and I teach her a little here before we go home and continue at home, and that's how we cope. We are brand ambassadors of this class, we are always the last to leave the classroom everyday. I have to request for the classroom key from her school teacher. This enables us make use of the class to learn a bit in school before going home. I personally lock the classroom by myself everyday and submit the key to the security guards at the gate."

This Act really touched me deep down my spirit. This Parent Inspired me today and I felt like sharing some nuggets with you all.

Indeed some children are slow learners, some even carry it over to adulthood while some don't. Some Kids are naturally smart while some are not. For some, it will take them enormous time to learn their alphabets, take them ages to learn their numbers and centuries to learn how to hold their pencils properly and write, while some children grasp so fast.

Parents who are not patient enough end up not helping these children who are slow in learning. And these kids seriously needs help! As a parent you have the greater task of repositioning your kids mentality don't leave it for their school teachers alone. In fact, you are your children's first teacher! patiently guide them and correct them in love not aggressively. They are children because they have fewer life experiences. It is not automatic it's a gradual process.

Sometimes you here parents say things like these in outburst "Just look at your younger brother, you dullard!" "Its obvious that I am wasting my hard earned money on you Idiot!" "Its of no use sending you to school, don't you see how your mates are progressing!" "Educating you is useless, if you don't change I will withdraw you from school Nonsense!" "Obviously school is not meant for you soon you will join them in the street and start Hawking coconut Head"

Parents does these statements ring bell?

Parents I beg you from the bottom of my heart don't give up on these children who are slow in learning. Keep guiding and teaching them, keep reading for them, Keep Pushing them forward. Make out time for this.

So many of us reading this post right now were once slow learners when we were younger but today we are leading in different spheres of life.  I charge you on this day to take that your child who is a slow learner as your personal project for the rest of this year. Carry out massive work on him or her, I bet you before the end of this year there will be an awesome improvement.

Some parents will try helping these children in all sincerity but if they sense that the child in particular seems not to be responding positively to their efforts, they get discouraged and the next thing they will do is to adopt "Neglectful Parenting Style" abandoning the child to himself which doesn't help at the end.

Furthermore, please parents,  stop comparing these kids to their siblings, mates and friends; it's not healthy for their psychology. Shouting, yelling, threats doesn't solve any problem either. Thus, you have to stop it so that you won't end up having a psychologically damaged child or a child with extreme low self esteem. Trust me this picture is worse!

One of my mentors I respect so much was once a Chronic slow learner but today he is a boss in every realm he operates. He will tell me Nneka Do you know that at Primary Six to JSS-2 I was still nothing to write home about ( But I bless God for my Dad! He never gave up on me.

Ben Carson the well known global Icon and colossal medical practitioner was once a slow learner. Just look at what he later turned out to be! (Kudos to his Mum). In fact, So many great personalities today were once slow learners, but someone somewhere believed in them and never gave up on them (your case shouldn't be Different).

I Encourage Immensely Parents all over the world who are already in this kind of race, God will continue to strengthen you all!

I am Children's Friend from the world of forms. I help Parents to Reposition their Children Psychology, especially the stubborn ones focusing on child's education (Feel free to Consult Me)

-Nneka P. Okereke: Parents and Children's coach; I teach and guide parents on how best to raise their Twenty-First Kids and have a happy family.          

      Follow Me @ ParenKids

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